Sex should be an orgasmic and satisfying experience, but there are moments when sex is just…weird. Imagine you call your booty call, show up at his place at 4am on a Saturday night, and he can’t keep it up. Talk about sex red flags! 

Then there are those moments that should cause concern. Your body doesn’t feel right and neither does your vagina. While he’s thrusting all you can think about is calling up your gyno. If you are experiencing any of the following five things during sex, perhaps you should! 

Sex Red Flags! When and Why to Be Concerned

You have a weird odor down there.

A vagina isn’t supposed to smell like roses. However, if the odor emanating from down there is as potent as boiled eggs, you in danger, girl! That’s why one of the sex red flags on our list is a change in vaginal odor. You may have an infection, like BV (bacteria vaginosis). Bacteria vaginosis is a common infection among women caused by an overgrowth of normal bacteria in the vagina. Symptoms include a fishy smell and discharge. The smell is worse during and after sex. Although BV is not a sexually transmitted infection (STI), it needs to be treated with antibiotics.

Sex is painful.

Sometimes your man’s member is too damn large. So much so that having sex actually hurts. On the other hand, feeling constant pain during sex is a sex red flag. If you feel pain during penetration, it might be due to insufficient lubrication, or you may have an infection, such as a UTI (urinary tract infection). Vaginismus — a condition where the muscles of the vaginal wall spasm — might be another cause.

You vagina constantly itches. 

Sexy lingerie on, you’re ready to seduce your man. In he goes and it feels so good until you need to scratch your vage. It itches, it burns! What is happening?! You may have an STI or a vaginal yeast infection. 

You black out.

You’re having the best sex ever and you faint. Just like that. You black out. 

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You may have experienced vasovagal syncope, which is one of the most common causes of fainting. The fainting spell is triggered when your body is overly excited due to certain experiences. Your heart rate and blood pressure drop, so there is less blood flow going to your brain. Your orgasm is so great that you just can’t catch your breath — and you faint. 

Kudos to your awesome orgasm! However, if this happens all the time, it’s a sex red flag. Talk to your doctor to rule out a heart condition. 

You don’t get aroused ever. 

If you’re never turned on during sex (ever!) you may have a low libido or female sexual arousal disorder. A recent study discovered that almost 50 percent of American women over the age of 57 have little to no sexual desire. They just don’t feel aroused anymore. So, if you’ve always had difficulty getting turned on during sex, the culprit might just be female sexual arousal disorder.

You are bleeding vaginally. 

You’re getting it on and start…bleeding?! You check your menstrual calendar and realize that Aunt Flow isn’t supposed to visit for a few more weeks. That’s a sex red flag right there!

Blame it on postcoital bleeding, when your cervix is sore and inflamed. If you are bleeding during and after sex, you might have an infection, like chlamydia or HPV, or undergoing hormonal changes. In other words, go see your gynecologist — STAT!